My book The Life of Your Love: Calling in the Love of Your Life came out in January and quickly became a #1 Amazon New Release. My husband and I came together twenty years ago, and everything I share in that book—and in this post—is lived, not borrowed.

Manifestation isn’t magic; it’s alignment.

It’s not just vision boards and positive thinking (though those can help clarify what you want). As I say in the book:

Manifestation is 93% clarity and 7% surrender.

I explain those seemingly wild numbers and explore these principles more deeply in The Life of Your Love, particularly how manifestation applies to relationships and calling in healthy love.

Here, then, are the 12 steps of manifestation that have guided my own life:

1. Know that love is the only power there is.

Love is all there is. So that’s who and what we are. Remembering that attracts partners who can meet us at this higher level.

2. Do your own inner spiritual work and awaken.

You cannot create a radiant outer life while remaining unconscious within.

3. Understand that everything is energy and vibration.

Your life reflects not only your actions, but the energy behind them.

4. Know that thought is creative.

Thought directs energy. What you repeatedly think, you strengthen.

5. Be crystal clear about what you want.

Vague desires create vague results.

6. Know that feelings fuel manifestation.

Emotion is the power source behind creation.

7. Forgive and move on.

Resentment anchors you to the past.

8. Remember that reciprocity is how the Universe works.

Giving and receiving are part of the same sacred flow.

9. Follow the path of least resistance.

Flow where life opens. Force is rarely the way.

10. Ensure your desires harm none.

Seek only what serves the good of all involved.

11. Let go and let the Universe handle it.

And don’t give up just before the miracle happens.

12. Remember that life is ultimately about love and service.

The most fulfilled lives are those lived in both.

FAQ About Manifestation

Is manifestation real?

Many people believe manifestation works through clarity, alignment, belief, and action.

How long does manifestation take?

It varies depending on resistance, clarity, alignment, and timing.

Can manifestation help you find love?

Many believe manifestation can help attract healthier relationships by changing beliefs, standards, and energetic alignment.

Many of these principles are about love—not just romantic love, but the love we are and live from every day. And the partner we call in can meet us there.

If you’re ready to apply these principles specifically to romantic relationships—and call in love from wholeness rather than longing—The Life of Your Love: Calling in the Love of Your Life goes much deeper into the process.